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The Highly Sensitive Person's Survival Guide: Essential Skills for Living Well in an Overstimulating World PDF, ePub eBook If you’re a highly sensitive person (HSP), you’re in good company. HSP’s make up some 20 percent of the population, individuals like you who both enjoy and wrestle with a finely tuned nervous system. You often sense things that others ignore such as strong smells, bright lights, and the crush of crowds. Even the presence of strangers in your immediate vicinity can cause yo If you’re a highly sensitive person (HSP), you’re in good company. HSP’s make up some 20 percent of the population, individuals like you who both enjoy and wrestle with a finely tuned nervous system. You often sense things that others ignore such as strong smells, bright lights, and the crush of crowds. Even the presence of strangers in your immediate vicinity can cause you considerable distraction. You already know that this condition can be a gift, but, until you learn to master your sensitive nervous system, you might be operating in a constant state of overstimulation. As an HSP, the most important thing you can learn is how to manage your increased sensitivity to both physical and emotional stimulation. This accessible, practical guide contains strategies to help you master this critical skill. Build your coping skills by exploring the books engaging exercises. Then, keep the book by your side, a constant companion as you make your way through your vibrant and highly stimulating world. •Find out what it means to be a highly sensitive person •Take the self-examination quiz and find out whether you are highly sensitive •Learn coping techniques indispensable to IHP’s •Discover how to manage distractions like noise and time pressure at home and at work •Reduce sensory-provoked tension with meditation and deep relaxation techniques •Navigate the challenges of interacting with others in social and intimate relationships

30 review for The Highly Sensitive Person's Survival Guide: Essential Skills for Living Well in an Overstimulating World

  1. 5 out of 5

    N.K. Layne

    Zeff wrote this book from a deeply personal place-- which is why I have to give it one star. I am not Zeff, at all, so I did not relate to this book. This does not mean that I an not "HSP", I hit all the characteristics for this personality type, but I do not relate to the world like Zeff, regardless. Zeff's spirituality dominated this book from page one. This frustrated me but then when I got to the concluding chapter which was directly *about* spirituality, I no longer had any patience. The ma Zeff wrote this book from a deeply personal place-- which is why I have to give it one star. I am not Zeff, at all, so I did not relate to this book. This does not mean that I an not "HSP", I hit all the characteristics for this personality type, but I do not relate to the world like Zeff, regardless. Zeff's spirituality dominated this book from page one. This frustrated me but then when I got to the concluding chapter which was directly *about* spirituality, I no longer had any patience. The main advice in this book is to meditate. Have a problem? Any problem at all? Meditate on it. It isn't that meditation doesn't have any worth to it-- but the repetition of this advice makes it meek and feeble. He also speaks at length about karma, God, and the afterlife. I strongly disagree with all these notions, so I couldn't take the man seriously.

  2. 4 out of 5

    Ashley

    A "highly sensitive person" is defined as a person with a finely tuned nervous system who has trouble screening out stimuli and can be easily overwhelmed by noise, crowds, and time pressure. I went into this expecting a bit more than "the basics", which may explain why I was slightly disappointed. If I read a book about "essential camping skills" I would expect a bit more than the obvious "bring a tent" and "don't forget to pack food", which is basically what this book offered. Wear earplugs to A "highly sensitive person" is defined as a person with a finely tuned nervous system who has trouble screening out stimuli and can be easily overwhelmed by noise, crowds, and time pressure. I went into this expecting a bit more than "the basics", which may explain why I was slightly disappointed. If I read a book about "essential camping skills" I would expect a bit more than the obvious "bring a tent" and "don't forget to pack food", which is basically what this book offered. Wear earplugs to drown out annoying noises and don't look at the clock when you're struggling to fall asleep were some of the suggestions proffered by Zeff. However, I did appreciate the many Buddhist references, since achieving inner peace and surrendering to your environment is complimentary to Zeff's advice. It wasn't a bad read, neccessarily, just very basic in nature.

  3. 5 out of 5

    Corinne Campbell

    After my psychologist suggested I am an HSP, with sensory issues that feed into anxiety, I was curious to read some more. Ted Zeff's book was rated highly on GoodReads and Amazon, so I downloaded the Kindle version. Unfortunately I've rarely come across a more poorly written, patronising book, made worse because of the amount of pseudoscience promoted throughout. (Homeopathy, Ayurvda healing, float tanks...) Rather than supporting HSPs, this book encourages them to hide from the world. It's based After my psychologist suggested I am an HSP, with sensory issues that feed into anxiety, I was curious to read some more. Ted Zeff's book was rated highly on GoodReads and Amazon, so I downloaded the Kindle version. Unfortunately I've rarely come across a more poorly written, patronising book, made worse because of the amount of pseudoscience promoted throughout. (Homeopathy, Ayurvda healing, float tanks...) Rather than supporting HSPs, this book encourages them to hide from the world. It's based on a deficit view that encourages HSPs to accept limitations rather than manage and move beyond them.

  4. 4 out of 5

    Anna

    If you are a highly sensitive person, you'd better avoid this book. It managed to achieve the exact opposite of what it was trying to do: instead of providing you with guidance and soothing calm, it irritated the hell out of me. I don't have any objections to meditation. Good stuff. Eating healthy? Yes, of course. Less stress? Wonderful idea! But apart from the fact that all of these are obvious and actually just as relevant to any highly sensitive, moderately sensitive and insensitive human bein If you are a highly sensitive person, you'd better avoid this book. It managed to achieve the exact opposite of what it was trying to do: instead of providing you with guidance and soothing calm, it irritated the hell out of me. I don't have any objections to meditation. Good stuff. Eating healthy? Yes, of course. Less stress? Wonderful idea! But apart from the fact that all of these are obvious and actually just as relevant to any highly sensitive, moderately sensitive and insensitive human being at all, there's one more huuuge issue with the author's advice. And this thing is: either he is living in some other, alternative reality, or he probably just never met ordinary people. Not comfortably retired millionaires, but us, usual folks with daily jobs, chores, families and stuff. Does the guy seriously think that getting up "one hour" earlier, to "meditate", do relaxing exercises and prepare, eat and enjoy a "healthy breakfast" is possible for someone who needs to be in the office at 7 am? Really? And all of those evening relaxations, meditations, avoiding arousing stuff like computers, phones etc are incredibly easy to achieve when you have just several hours to clean up, cook, do groceries and hopefully stay in touch with friends and relatives by phone/email? Honestly, where does he live? I want to live there too! But speaking seriously, having a lot to do and even handling two jobs does not mean you cannot provide yourself with some quiet time or establish routines. Unfortunately though, you'll have to figure it out on your own because you won't find much help from the book. If you want to get some sensible and doable advice, better read Elaine Aron's book(s). I like her approach way more, and both her manner of writing, as well as her recommendations, are spot-on. Her books changed my life for the better, without me having to quit my job and move to the forest away from it all :) By the way, I do eat healthy breakfast. But I don't wake up an hour ealier to savour it :)

  5. 4 out of 5

    Stella

    If you are an HSP (you know who you are: you don't go to the movies because you are assaulted by the popcorn smell; You don't go to certain stores, because the flourescent lighting makes you nauseated or triggers a migraine) read this book. It will make a lot of sense. If you are not one, you might think that it is just craziness. I liked this book because it is the only book I have read on this topic that doesn't go overboard with how great it is to be an HSP. At best, being an HSP is akin to be If you are an HSP (you know who you are: you don't go to the movies because you are assaulted by the popcorn smell; You don't go to certain stores, because the flourescent lighting makes you nauseated or triggers a migraine) read this book. It will make a lot of sense. If you are not one, you might think that it is just craziness. I liked this book because it is the only book I have read on this topic that doesn't go overboard with how great it is to be an HSP. At best, being an HSP is akin to being left handed. Sometimes it is almost a handicap. I waited a couple of weeks to review this book because I wanted to be able to report to anyone who might care whether it was useful. I was already doing yoga, but I believe that some of the other suggestions in this book are worth trying, if you, like me, are an HSP (or "way too sensitive.") For example, I have found that the breathing exercises and the noise control suggestions have substantially improved the quality of the sleep I get at night. Overall, if you are a highly sensitive person, this book is worth reading.

  6. 4 out of 5

    Andee Marley

    This book is life-changing for me. LIFE-CHANGING PEOPLE!!!!! I'm am not alone! The HSP guide helped me understand myself and my relationships better....I was on the right track, but this certainly fleshes it out. I have included a link to the HSP test to take if you think you might be one. http://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensi... Also, here is a podcast for HSP's that is helpful.. http://highlysensitiveperson.net/hspp...

  7. 4 out of 5

    Zach Harper

    Highly patronizing, and written with a large amount of victim blaming. Apologize for being sensitive when you ask someone to be considerate or when dealing with abusive behaviour? Talk about gas lighting. No thanks. You have to be kidding me.

  8. 5 out of 5

    Stacy Curro

    Interesting, but the people that need to be reading this are not. Should be required reading for managers and HR.

  9. 4 out of 5

    Carson hall

    How can a book possibly go from five stars to one star??? Well, I shall explain it: As a HSP and an INFP, I am about as sensitive as they come. I started off liking this book, even though to most HSP's I imagine most of the advise is obvious, but it's always nice to know one is on the "right track". I was really put off by the comment in the Health chapter of this book. The author writes "(with regards to a vegetarian diet).it's better to be a nonjudgmental meat eater than a judgmental vegetaria How can a book possibly go from five stars to one star??? Well, I shall explain it: As a HSP and an INFP, I am about as sensitive as they come. I started off liking this book, even though to most HSP's I imagine most of the advise is obvious, but it's always nice to know one is on the "right track". I was really put off by the comment in the Health chapter of this book. The author writes "(with regards to a vegetarian diet).it's better to be a nonjudgmental meat eater than a judgmental vegetarian who condemns people who eat meat." WAIT A MINUTE HERE...let's take this one step at a time. I am a vegetarian and have been off and on most of my adult life. I have NEVER verbally attacked or judged anyone for eating meat, I live with and love a meat eater, I would never think of judging him due to his choice of food. The only thing I have ever seen vegetarians do is try to EDUCATE meat eaters as to why meat is being forced down their throat (pun). What anyone does with information is their choice. I have heard over and over again how vegetarians are judgmental towards meat eaters, now I have something to say, and it will resonate with many other vegetarians and vegans...and here it goes. If there is any judgement involved it isn't that people eat meat, it may be that people just don't care where their food comes from, and I find it next to impossible to believe that people care about what brand of shoes they wear, but don't care what they put in their bodies. To clarify: It's not that we care what you eat, we care that you don't give it any thought or will not take into consideration exactly what you are doing. Everyone has the right to eat what they want, and HSP's, of all people, would be less judgmental than not. The second point I want to make, and one that is quite important and I think is dangerous to be ignored (but then again, do what you want, I am just giving you the information, what you do with it is your business, I'm not trying to change anyone, but I know that I would have appreciated this information, which is why I am passing it on.) The author also suggests herbal remedies for sleep problems. Being an HSP my system is quite sensitive to herbal formulas. I DO NOT recommend melatonin without keeping a look out as to how it affects depression. I am prone to depression and am unable to take melatonin because it causes me to be more depressed. Also, he recommends St. John's Wort and valerian which can interfere with certain asthma medications as well as exacerbate an asthma attack. I will say that Mr. Zeff does suggest consulting a physician before taking these remedies, so I give him credit for that. Just be careful, I think side effects in any medications can be heightened in an HSP (I know it is with me), so proceed with caution.

  10. 5 out of 5

    Michelle

    This book was shitty and repetitive, but helpful in that it had a lot of good tips. Aron's book is much, much better overall.

  11. 4 out of 5

    Julie L

    While I hadn't liked the original HSP book by Aron (I skimmed it briefly and put it away) this one was interesting enough that I read nearly all of it and determined that I should give the Aron book another go. That was its value--it was interesting enough for me to give this topic another try. It has a lot of practical tips--some of them obvious--but many of them helpful. The author uses some laughable alliteration, and you get an overall feeling of fussiness from him (I would never take the HS While I hadn't liked the original HSP book by Aron (I skimmed it briefly and put it away) this one was interesting enough that I read nearly all of it and determined that I should give the Aron book another go. That was its value--it was interesting enough for me to give this topic another try. It has a lot of practical tips--some of them obvious--but many of them helpful. The author uses some laughable alliteration, and you get an overall feeling of fussiness from him (I would never take the HSP thing so seriously or tell people I had a "finely-tuned nervous system") but once past that the book does have the motivation of helping people behind it.

  12. 5 out of 5

    Marjorie

    wow- incredible insights about my husband and son. This helped me better understand them and how I can be more supportive to a highly sensitive person. Will definately read more books on this topic. Now to get my husband and son to read it.....

  13. 4 out of 5

    Tracey

    This is the first book I've read about the highly Sensitive person. Thank god I finally have some Understanding of myself! Loved it. Practical tools for surviving daily life as a HSP.

  14. 5 out of 5

    Vicki B

    Some good points. Not quite as helpful as I thought it would be, but I'm sure I'll refer back to it from time to time.

  15. 4 out of 5

    Meghna

    I never used to read books like these but lately I have been wandering into a section of the library which I never used to and finding such gems which I can't resist giving a try. I saw this book and for a moment was embarrassed to pick up but I did and luckily the page I gave a read was extremely useful for a person like me who is extremely sensitive to all kinds of stimuli. The book has a test for you to identify if you are a Highly Sensitive Person and then suggestions of how to make the best I never used to read books like these but lately I have been wandering into a section of the library which I never used to and finding such gems which I can't resist giving a try. I saw this book and for a moment was embarrassed to pick up but I did and luckily the page I gave a read was extremely useful for a person like me who is extremely sensitive to all kinds of stimuli. The book has a test for you to identify if you are a Highly Sensitive Person and then suggestions of how to make the best of it without being overwhelmed all the time, which can be the case with me a lot. The recommendations revolved around giving yourself care, space and meditation which have helped me in the past and for some, they can be obvious but I think they really help to solidify the abstract concept you have of creating peace. I took pictures of several pages of the book to remember before returning it, which I guess speaks about how much I gained from it. It's not easy to do it all, but it's a step, and I'm glad I took it.

  16. 4 out of 5

    Shhhhh Ahhhhh

    I'm mixed on this book. On the one hand, it is full of good information (well, mostly good information from my perspective and information-base), and the author clearly wrote it in earnest. On the other hand, and this could just be my biases talking, the gratuitous use of the phrase "highly sensitive person" seemed to positively drip with victim mentality. The long and short of the book: Some people have nervous systems which make them more sensitive to stimulus than others. This can cause vario I'm mixed on this book. On the one hand, it is full of good information (well, mostly good information from my perspective and information-base), and the author clearly wrote it in earnest. On the other hand, and this could just be my biases talking, the gratuitous use of the phrase "highly sensitive person" seemed to positively drip with victim mentality. The long and short of the book: Some people have nervous systems which make them more sensitive to stimulus than others. This can cause various issues in a world where most people have higher sensory thresholds. Coping mechanisms exist to deal with that. I might recommend some of the tools and understandings from the book but I don't think I'd recommend the book itself.

  17. 5 out of 5

    Gigi

    A change of pace from Aron's writings. A man writing does tend to do that. The information is valuable. My problem was I'd already learned most of this the hard way. Had I found this in my youth, or even in the early days of discovering my HSP-ness, it would have proved a great aid. Thus, I do recommend this to any HSP or someone who wants to understand. Non-HSP's likely won't "get it" even when they are willing to try, but I applaud any efforts to assist us in our "unique" perspectives on life. Z A change of pace from Aron's writings. A man writing does tend to do that. The information is valuable. My problem was I'd already learned most of this the hard way. Had I found this in my youth, or even in the early days of discovering my HSP-ness, it would have proved a great aid. Thus, I do recommend this to any HSP or someone who wants to understand. Non-HSP's likely won't "get it" even when they are willing to try, but I applaud any efforts to assist us in our "unique" perspectives on life. Zeff is easy enough to read and lays out various solutions. I like it when you get a few answers along the way. They say men are into solving problems. He certainly makes that effort. Read it.

  18. 4 out of 5

    Silvia

    I was able to read this book fairly quickly because a lot of the advice was already familiar to me. Your mileage may vary, depending on where you are on your journey of living well as an HSP. I suspected this was the case so checked it out from the library. But I was pleasantly surprised to learn enough to justify the time spent reading. Some of the advice is a little dated since this book was written 14 years ago, mostly around diet, and after reading Why We Sleep recently I will also disagree t I was able to read this book fairly quickly because a lot of the advice was already familiar to me. Your mileage may vary, depending on where you are on your journey of living well as an HSP. I suspected this was the case so checked it out from the library. But I was pleasantly surprised to learn enough to justify the time spent reading. Some of the advice is a little dated since this book was written 14 years ago, mostly around diet, and after reading Why We Sleep recently I will also disagree that anyone can get by on 5 hours of sleep. But worth a read, especially if you're new to self-help and HSP.

  19. 4 out of 5

    Stacey

    This book was written from the very personal perspective of the author, who is specifically an introverted, low-sensation seeking HSP with a strong bent for spirituality, pseudoscience, and woo. There were several instances of very poor analysis and bad examples that made me angry. I only read this book because it was recommended by a therapist, and it strongly reinforced my decision to find a new therapist.

  20. 5 out of 5

    Cynic

    Reading this book made me understand why I be so edgy when things annoy me; why sounds and someone snoring keeps me up at night. Unfortunately, I can't soundproof my home like the author suggests. I do have the feeling that a lot of people would consider themselves "highly sensitive" after reading this book.

  21. 4 out of 5

    madam0wl

    Much better than the book by Aron, though she seems to be a mentor for him. Was just easier to read, and more functional. A few good insights too.

  22. 5 out of 5

    Lloyd

    Found this a difficult read - it dragged - so I gave up. I think 'Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking' is the best book on this topic.

  23. 5 out of 5

    Marije Van

    A book with a lot of useful tips.

  24. 4 out of 5

    Kris

    If you are a HSP this is an amazing tool. It was eye-opening to say the least.

  25. 5 out of 5

    Marie Z. Johansen

    If you are HSP - this is a good book to begin with

  26. 4 out of 5

    Angelica

    Used some of the suggestions in this book, especially for sleep.

  27. 5 out of 5

    Kirstin

    Enlightening. I am not alone!

  28. 5 out of 5

    Martha

    Published in 2004, this book is for people who identify as highly sensitive people (HSP) and it guides them through the ways in which they can better survive and thrive. HSP’s reportedly make up about 20 percent of the population and because they feel overwhelmed with many of the things that people become acclimated to, they would have difficulties in doing well in society. For instance, they are adversely affected when there is too much sound, too pollutant dust, light, and so on. The Highly Sens Published in 2004, this book is for people who identify as highly sensitive people (HSP) and it guides them through the ways in which they can better survive and thrive. HSP’s reportedly make up about 20 percent of the population and because they feel overwhelmed with many of the things that people become acclimated to, they would have difficulties in doing well in society. For instance, they are adversely affected when there is too much sound, too pollutant dust, light, and so on. The Highly Sensitive Person Survival GuideThis book will help you find out if you are a HSP through its self-assessment quiz. It shares coping techniques and ways to manage distractions like noise and time pressures at home and work. In addition, it reveals tips on how to reduce sensory overwhelm with meditation and deep relaxation techniques. It recommends ways in which one can navigate the challenges of interacting with others in social and intimate relationships. There are ten chapters in this book and at the end of each chapter, there is very quick recap. One can pretty much skip to the end of each chapter to get the learning points For instance, in chapter two, it talks about how to create a daily routine. In chapter three, it suggests how to calm senses and cope with time pressures. Even though some of the recommendations are pretty straightforward and common sense, there was the occasional nugget which I found would be very useful to HSPs. Also sometimes when you’re in the situation yourself, you don’t have that bird’s eye view to recognise what is it that you need to be doing. Chapter 9 answers commonly asked questions by highly sensitive people. It also describes healing modalities and how to choose the right healer for you. Of course, this book is suitable not just for people who are highly sensitive. It is also appropriate for people who are constantly feeling tired, stressed, overwhelmed, or maybe even having depression. These techniques could help them better get out of whatever it is that is troubling them more quickly. I particularly like the chapter on sleep. Even though lots of people have sleeping problems and know a thing or two about good sleep, this book has put together all of the best practices I’ve read various articles through the years, and more. Published by New Harbinger Publications, this book has 200 pages and of the 78 reviews on Amazon, most are favourable. I found this book useful for those who really just want to cut through all the clutter, and get down to practical, realistic and simple techniques to cope better (myself included). So of course, I am recommending this book to you.

  29. 4 out of 5

    Giovanna

    “The real warriors in this world are the ones that see the details of another’s soul. They see the transparency behind walls people put up. They stand on the battlefield of life and expose their heart’s transparency, so others can finish the day with hope. They are the sensitive souls that understand that before they could be a light they first had to feel the burn.” “The highly sensitive person has an important mission, which is to serve as a balance to the more aggressive behavior of some of t “The real warriors in this world are the ones that see the details of another’s soul. They see the transparency behind walls people put up. They stand on the battlefield of life and expose their heart’s transparency, so others can finish the day with hope. They are the sensitive souls that understand that before they could be a light they first had to feel the burn.” “The highly sensitive person has an important mission, which is to serve as a balance to the more aggressive behavior of some of the non-HSPs who advocate a less than nurturing policy toward humans, animals, and Mother Nature.” “I am very sensitive to the interactions I have with people. Whether it’s a momentary glance in an elevator, or a deep philosophical conversation over dinner, or a brush-by in a café, I feel (sometimes exhaustingly) attuned and affected by the subtle exchanges that pass seemingly benignly between us as human ships. Being a sensitive empath is a beautiful thing as an artist, and it fosters a deep burning curiosity about why we do the things we do.” A.M

  30. 4 out of 5

    Jennie Mayfield

    I read the first few chapters and then skimmed. This book comes from a really privileged point of view and it also essentially asks a HSP to hide out from the rest of the world. I don’t really feel like anything was added to my arsenal of techniques for dealing with over stimulating situations. Essentially it’s live a healthy lifestyle and remove yourself from situations that make you sensitive and if you don’t want to then you need to re-examine why you put yourself in these situations. Stressf I read the first few chapters and then skimmed. This book comes from a really privileged point of view and it also essentially asks a HSP to hide out from the rest of the world. I don’t really feel like anything was added to my arsenal of techniques for dealing with over stimulating situations. Essentially it’s live a healthy lifestyle and remove yourself from situations that make you sensitive and if you don’t want to then you need to re-examine why you put yourself in these situations. Stressful job? Change jobs? Have a family to support? Well too bad, your needs come first. Happy people value their needs as much as others, but this is a little much. As an HSP I wish the world were a little more friendly towards us, but also you shouldn’t expect every person you encounter to change their behavior to suit your needs.

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