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Tragedy Plus Time: A Tragi-Comic Memoir PDF, ePub eBook Unsentimental, unexpectedly funny, and incredibly honest, Tragedy Plus Time is a love letter to every family that has ever felt messy, complicated, or (even momentarily) magnificent. Meet the Magnificent Cayton-Hollands, a trio of brilliant, acerbic teenagers from Denver, Colorado, who were going to change the world. Anna, Adam, and Lydia were taught by their father, a civi Unsentimental, unexpectedly funny, and incredibly honest, Tragedy Plus Time is a love letter to every family that has ever felt messy, complicated, or (even momentarily) magnificent. Meet the Magnificent Cayton-Hollands, a trio of brilliant, acerbic teenagers from Denver, Colorado, who were going to change the world. Anna, Adam, and Lydia were taught by their father, a civil rights lawyer, and mother, an investigative journalist, to recognize injustice and have their hearts open to the universe—the good, the bad, the heartbreaking (and, inadvertently, the anxiety-inducing and the obsessive-compulsive disorder-fueling). Adam chose to meet life’s tough breaks and cruel realities with stand-up comedy; his older sister, Anna, chose law; while their youngest sister, Lydia, struggled to find her place in the world. Beautiful and whip-smart, Lydia was witty, extremely sensitive, fiercely stubborn, and always somewhat haunted. She and Adam bonded over comedy from a young age, running skits in their basement and obsessing over episodes of The Simpsons. When Adam sunk into a deep depression in college, it was Lydia who was able to reach him and pull him out. But years later as Adam’s career takes off, Lydia’s own depression overtakes her, and, though he tries, Adam can’t return the favor. When she takes her own life, the family is devastated, and Adam throws himself into his stand-up, drinking, and rage. He struggles with disturbing memories of Lydia’s death and turns to EMDR therapy to treat his post-traumatic stress disorder when he realizes there’s a difference between losing and losing it. Adam Cayton-Holland is a tremendously talented writer and comedian, uniquely poised to take readers to the edges of comedy and tragedy, brilliance and madness. Tragedy Plus Time is a revelatory, darkly funny, and poignant tribute to a lost sibling that will have you reaching for the phone to call your brother or sister by the last page.

30 review for Tragedy Plus Time: A Tragi-Comic Memoir

  1. 5 out of 5

    Dorie - Traveling Sister :)

    After thinking about this book, a lot, I have revised my rating to a 5*. This is the second amazing memoir that I have read in the last few months and is one of the top books I have read this year! The blurb for this book is so extensive that I don’t want to go through many of the elements of the book that are already available for you to read. What I loved about this book was the easy flow from past to present, as Adam talked about his early years with Lydia. For a stand up comedian he is one hec After thinking about this book, a lot, I have revised my rating to a 5*. This is the second amazing memoir that I have read in the last few months and is one of the top books I have read this year! The blurb for this book is so extensive that I don’t want to go through many of the elements of the book that are already available for you to read. What I loved about this book was the easy flow from past to present, as Adam talked about his early years with Lydia. For a stand up comedian he is one heck of a writer! I will suggest what others have and that is to watch some of Adam’s stand up comedy on You Tube or elsewhere, I really enjoyed it and it gave me an idea of how strong of a person he is to be able to pursue his career amid so much family hurt and turmoil. I haven’t as yet watched “Those Who Can’t, the comedy series that he and two friends wrote and starred in but I intend to search it out. Lydia was a very gifted but troubled young woman. Early on she kept her depression a secret but she finally had a break down and confessed to her father that she hadn’t been able to sleep in months, she couldn’t turn her brain off, that it howled at her. Adam relates “I texted Lydia that I loved her and to call me when she woke up. . . .I couldn’t believe that I didn’t know any of this. Why hadn’t Lydia told me? Why hadn’t I noticed? But she kept it so hidden” The family had hopes that with therapy she would get better, but in the end it wasn’t enough and she takes her own life. Unfortunately Adam is the one who finds her which makes it all the more difficult for him to get past this, he is so traumatized. Adam himself suffered from severe depression in college and it was Lydia who brought him through it. There were other family members who had been severely depressed and suicidal, his dad’s sister, Barbara, was apparently manic depressive but also brilliant. “Several of her paintings hung in my parents’ house” “She had been a gifted piano player, just like Lydia’. This book is not bleak or without humor. There were sections when Adam talked about the bits that he and Lydia acted out together when I was laughing. Other times when he talked about his comedy routines, they were incredibly funny, witty and unique. One thing that stayed with me was the fact that Adam and his mother felt that Lydia was communicating with them at times. First it was the wife of a friend, Maggie, who had a weird gift which she called “energy work” and told Adam how much Lydia was “talking to her” with messages that she wanted her to convey to Adam. Later there were quite a few instances of viewing a red tailed hawk which seemed to be appearing often to Adam and his mother. One encounter which Adam related took place in a parking lot and the hawk “stretched both it wings wide and held them there, like the iconic Aztec eagle. It didn’t flap them, it didn’t stretch them out, it just stood there . . . .as if to say BEHOLD”. I don’t believe in reincarnation but the instances that Adam related were very powerful, they seemed to help the family with their grief. This is a great memoir and I hope it finds it’s audience, I highly recommend it!

  2. 5 out of 5

    Elyse Walters

    Audiobook... narrated by the author, Adam Clayton-Holland. “There is no guide to grief, but it’s still okay to laugh”! Touching- real- heartbreaking-moving - warm - funny. All the emotions are felt. A beautiful memoir about Adam growing up...a great stand-up comic! .....and a tribute to Adam’s sister who took her life.

  3. 4 out of 5

    Maxwell

    3.5 stars This was a very sweet and sad memoir, one that had moments of humor and reflections on the brevity of life—specifically the short-lived life of the author's sister who took her own life at the age of 28. I have to say, there were some parts of this that were difficult to read. Even though it's framed as a "tragi-comic memoir," I think it leans more towards the tragic side of things. But it's an important story to hear and equally an important one for the author to tell. I didn't know any 3.5 stars This was a very sweet and sad memoir, one that had moments of humor and reflections on the brevity of life—specifically the short-lived life of the author's sister who took her own life at the age of 28. I have to say, there were some parts of this that were difficult to read. Even though it's framed as a "tragi-comic memoir," I think it leans more towards the tragic side of things. But it's an important story to hear and equally an important one for the author to tell. I didn't know anything about the author before reading this, but I don't think that matters. In fact, the parts about his life comedy career me at first, but I realized I was more interested in hearing about his family and childhood, what shaped him and his sisters into the adults they eventually became. You could tell those parts of his story were truly where he shined: as a brother and as a comedian. Sometimes the most messed up stuff in our life is simultaneously the hardest to speak of and the easiest to laugh at. And he does it with grace, humor and in the memory of his sister, which I think is a beautiful thing. Thanks to Touchstone for providing me with an early copy of this book. It will be released in August 2018.

  4. 5 out of 5

    Janelle • She Reads with Cats

    Thank you so much Touchstone Books for this incredible book! All opinions are my own. TRAGEDY + TIME by Adam Cayton-Holland is a beautifully dark, humorous, and poignant debut about family, loss, grief, and life. This introspective memoir is filled with so much heart, depth, wonderful memories, and devastation - I just loved it. If you’re a nerd like me, I highly recommend that you watch his standup when you read this because it really adds to the experience. Cayton-Holland writes about his famil Thank you so much Touchstone Books for this incredible book! All opinions are my own. TRAGEDY + TIME by Adam Cayton-Holland is a beautifully dark, humorous, and poignant debut about family, loss, grief, and life. This introspective memoir is filled with so much heart, depth, wonderful memories, and devastation - I just loved it. If you’re a nerd like me, I highly recommend that you watch his standup when you read this because it really adds to the experience. Cayton-Holland writes about his family and childhood, but mainly focuses on his younger sister Lydia who was deeply depressed which ultimately led to her suicide. He writes about their close friendship, the hardships of her growing depression, and dealing with the grief of losing her. It’s captivating, honest, and heartbreaking - trust me...you won’t be able to put it down. The way Cayton-Holland writes about his sister is so lovely, graceful, and quite sad but he is a comedian so he’s brilliant at laughing at the difficult things in life. And he does this with perfect comedic timing. Depression and suicide are such deeply dark and difficult subjects to write about but this memoir is perfectly balanced. He grapples with hypersensitivity, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and describes it with complete accuracy. I was fascinated learning his perspective, not only about the tragic loss of life, but also mental illness and life’s brevity. And let me assure you that this memoir is brilliant whether you know Adam Cayton-Holland or not. TRAGEDY + TIME is a must read for anyone interested in the human experience of coping with mental illness, losing a loved one, and forgiveness but laced with curative humor.

  5. 4 out of 5

    Cathy

    One of the best books about suicide I have read. Adam's story clearly shows the paradox of life, losing a beloved sister due to steadily declining mental health, while reaping the benefits of his amazing talents in his rise to success. I loved the pride he demonstrated towards his family.

  6. 5 out of 5

    Mehrsa

    This was a touching and tragic memoir of a family's loss. It was well-written and interesting. However, it should have ended about 2/3rds of the way through--the last third of the book was meandering and aimless. I kept waiting for him to wrap up and started getting impatient when he would add another and then another new thought.

  7. 5 out of 5

    Kathryn in FL

    I realize that I am an outlier among those who posted reviews but as you can also see currently 80% have not written a review which is much higher than average for ARC Giveaway. I have read some books by comedians Trevor Noah was the last but I've read Betty White, one by George Carlin and several others. I found this autobiography very flat. Adam Cayton-Holland attempts to many things and has difficulty remaining on one topic and completing the thought before jumping to the next at times. I hope I realize that I am an outlier among those who posted reviews but as you can also see currently 80% have not written a review which is much higher than average for ARC Giveaway. I have read some books by comedians Trevor Noah was the last but I've read Betty White, one by George Carlin and several others. I found this autobiography very flat. Adam Cayton-Holland attempts to many things and has difficulty remaining on one topic and completing the thought before jumping to the next at times. I hope some major changes are made before it is released so that the reader doesn't give up like I did. Tragic it is, his sister, with whom he was quite close committed suicide and he found her. I have a similar experience and it is extremely traumatizing. I feel guilty for giving it one star but I didn't write the book. I wanted to like it, I forced myself repeatedly to pick up again and again. At the end of the day, I feel mediocre is a compliment. The fact that this man gets paid to do comedy amazes me! His story of getting started in comedy was so bogged down with minutia that it should be sold as a curative for insomnia (which I do have and do intend to use, cuz it worked once already!). I also wonder how it has become an "in thing" to publish a biography when you are 30 or 40. I ain't no geezer but at age 50 something, with friends of all ages, most people really don't have a lot of wisdom or experience at that age. However, publishers must make enough to keep publishing them. I hate that I felt I had to write such a negative review but other than feeling sorry for the author's loss, I believe this book earned it's rating. I would rather save others from reading a boring book than hide behind a no review (which I considered for about a month)... Abandoned at page 88

  8. 5 out of 5

    Sarah

    Have you heard any of Adam Cayton-Holland's standup comedy routine yet? If not, first go online and find it. My favorite is his bit about the Ivory-billed Woodpecker (but then again, I'm a giant bird nerd... however even if you're not, it's downright hilarious). Get yourself laughing and hear what he has to say so you can really appreciate the soul and strength he poured into writing this book. It's a great memoir. I read Tragedy Plus Time swiftly over the holiday weekend. I loved it. He hit a ba Have you heard any of Adam Cayton-Holland's standup comedy routine yet? If not, first go online and find it. My favorite is his bit about the Ivory-billed Woodpecker (but then again, I'm a giant bird nerd... however even if you're not, it's downright hilarious). Get yourself laughing and hear what he has to say so you can really appreciate the soul and strength he poured into writing this book. It's a great memoir. I read Tragedy Plus Time swiftly over the holiday weekend. I loved it. He hit a balance of more funny up front side and heavy-hitting on the back side, yet both were laced throughout the whole book. His descriptions of OCD were spot on, but what I REALLY appreciated was his testimony to EMDR and what that can do for helping to process trauma. There's just not much written (or much written well) in memoirs or even fiction about the experience of EMDR or why someone might not think it's a crazy thing to try. Trauma survivors and therapists everywhere should really high five Cayton-Holland for this. One of my favorite, hilarious bits was the "'It's been insane,' said an exhausted Cayton-Holland," refrain. Not only was it just plain funny, but it reminded me so much of that cadence of family jokes that never die, even when a family member does. I could think of so many examples of this in my own family while reading that line surface over and over. This one is going on my favorites list for 2018. Very well done. Maybe grab a hankie or two. Thanks to Touchstone Books for an advanced copy.

  9. 4 out of 5

    Lara Blackman

    I loved this book - it's a very emotional story and really gets at how hard it is to watch someone you love suffer. By the end, you feel like you're part of the author's family and endured this tragedy with them. You will almost definitely cry reading this one but it will be worth it !

  10. 5 out of 5

    Kelsey

    I wish I wasn't able to relate to this as much as I do, but it is what it is. The author does a wonderful and honest job of depicting the grief that follows a suicide. This book is a beautiful tribute to the sister he lost. If you are coping with a family member taking their own life and you want to feel less alone, this one should be on your list.

  11. 4 out of 5

    Els

    This book was too close to home to finish. I skimmed. And it broke my heart.

  12. 5 out of 5

    Mary

    I was lucky enough to read this one early, and loved it so much that I KNEW I wanted my fellow therapist co-workers to read it along with me. I restarted this one as a group with our team, and reading it not only from the lens of reader, but therapist, was so incredibly meaningful. The author writes with humor and heartbreak, beautifully and real– and writes some of the best account of EMDR from a client’s perspective that I’ve ever read. His story is an incredible way to memorialize his sister’ I was lucky enough to read this one early, and loved it so much that I KNEW I wanted my fellow therapist co-workers to read it along with me. I restarted this one as a group with our team, and reading it not only from the lens of reader, but therapist, was so incredibly meaningful. The author writes with humor and heartbreak, beautifully and real– and writes some of the best account of EMDR from a client’s perspective that I’ve ever read. His story is an incredible way to memorialize his sister’s life– it’s clear through his words that her death is only the smallest fraction of her story, as it should be. My whole team of co-workers adored this one as well, and found so much to discuss. Thanks to Touchstone for the early copies for myself, and my lil’ therapist-book-club mates as well!

  13. 4 out of 5

    April Ritzschke

    God. I felt this book, I mean really FELT it. Does it help that I live in Denver and know almost all the places mentioned? Maybe a minuscule amount. Even so, I haven’t allowed myself to feel feelings like this since the first few weeks after losing someone indescribably important to suicide. I put this on my list to read because I’d seen Adam Cayton-Holland years ago at a dive bar and remembered him making me laugh. I’d no idea what he’d recently gone through and certainly no idea I’d be going t God. I felt this book, I mean really FELT it. Does it help that I live in Denver and know almost all the places mentioned? Maybe a minuscule amount. Even so, I haven’t allowed myself to feel feelings like this since the first few weeks after losing someone indescribably important to suicide. I put this on my list to read because I’d seen Adam Cayton-Holland years ago at a dive bar and remembered him making me laugh. I’d no idea what he’d recently gone through and certainly no idea I’d be going through similar with the person I was with at that show. I’ll be making a trip to Lydia’s bench and paying my respects because though we frequented the same places, I didn’t know her but this book made me feel like I did and made me feel a sense of loss for someone I never met which is quite a powerful thing.

  14. 5 out of 5

    Cristin

    This is a hard review to write. Not because I think it was a terrible book, but because I related to it so much that it kind of opened some raw wounds inside of myself. This is a story about a beloved sister named Lydia who took her own life at 28 years old. This is also a story about a brother, reeling from the death of his sister and trying to make sense of it all. The story was good and I liked the progression it was told in. There were a few parts where I felt he was trying too hard to be funn This is a hard review to write. Not because I think it was a terrible book, but because I related to it so much that it kind of opened some raw wounds inside of myself. This is a story about a beloved sister named Lydia who took her own life at 28 years old. This is also a story about a brother, reeling from the death of his sister and trying to make sense of it all. The story was good and I liked the progression it was told in. There were a few parts where I felt he was trying too hard to be funny, but the writing was mostly solid. Especially after Lydia's death. He wrote his feelings down beautifully, so much so, that I could feel them myself. And, as someone who has had a brother commit suicide, I could intensely relate to some of those feelings. *ARC was given in exchange for an honest review*

  15. 5 out of 5

    Sammy

    “I just miss her” Adam Cayton-Holland (autocorrected from Clayton) delivers a memoir on his little sister’s struggle with mental illness and his family’s struggle to be magnificent in the wake of it. Cayton-Holland makes the transition from comedian to author with a conversational tone that answers your thoughts and interpretations just as they crop up, likely as a result from years of reading audiences,but he does so with prose and deliberate word choice. His reflection on why he enjoyed pointing “I just miss her” Adam Cayton-Holland (autocorrected from Clayton) delivers a memoir on his little sister’s struggle with mental illness and his family’s struggle to be magnificent in the wake of it. Cayton-Holland makes the transition from comedian to author with a conversational tone that answers your thoughts and interpretations just as they crop up, likely as a result from years of reading audiences,but he does so with prose and deliberate word choice. His reflection on why he enjoyed pointing out little secret gnomes in the Denver museum with his sister stuck because I felt what he had felt. That, “We had made ourselves special, like we were somehow different, with an enhanced understanding of the world. it made us feel bigger than ourselves, like we were connected to some greater plane...we wanted everyone to realize there was mystery and wonder in their backyard, if only they knew to look for it.” Tragedy+Time also had me laugh out loud and my shoulders bouncing on the train. A lot of his big professional moments are covered including Adam’s first big performance in the 9th grade, there was, “one girl who never spoke to me. She asked me if I was Adam Cayton-Holland. I was. She immediately dropped to her knees and sucked my dick right there in the middle of the hallway. Ok, not really but the high I felt was as if she had.” Totally on the opposite side of things, there’s something really accessible in the specificity of his struggle with grief. I’m not white, I didn’t grow up upper middle class suburban, and I never dreamed of attending Wesleyan University or traveling to Paris with my father. But Cayton-Holland brought me into his world when he talked about the ways he tried to process his grief, the stages he went through, the little family jokes he had with his sister, which take front stage in Tragedy+Time and all of that allows the us the sense that we’re in that award winning personal family dramedy, with all the highs and lows: “I texted her every night. Me: you ok? Her: Yeah, just sad. Me: Sad normal or sad bad? Her: Sad normal. Just wanna sleep Me: Sleep normal, like with no pills? Her: Yeah sleep normal Me: Ok, you nice.” Cayton-Holland’s writing makes you feel like he could have easily wrote this book for himself, for his own catharsis, and then shelved it, only to be brought out every now and then when the grief gripped him too strongly. And because of how specific, personal, and honest his descriptions of his family were, I ended up reflecting on my struggles, my bereavement, my relationship with my sister and my inside jokes with her. Cayton-Holland eventually makes it out to the other side of grief with his sense of humor and family in tact through acknowledging something larger than his(or our) understanding exists after life. And because of that, a relationship with his sister lives on through him, through his family, and a bird.

  16. 5 out of 5

    Leah K

    How often does one get to read a memoir in which you personally know one of the people? How often do you get to read about the end of that person’s life, the end of their days? Not many, I’d speculate. And yet, here I am, in a unique position to have read a book by Adam Cayton-Holland in where he discusses his life and impact of his sister, Lydia, who committed suicide in 2012. And I knew Lydia. We worked together a dog rescue (mentioned in the book is also Dozer, a dog Lydia rehabilitated for t How often does one get to read a memoir in which you personally know one of the people? How often do you get to read about the end of that person’s life, the end of their days? Not many, I’d speculate. And yet, here I am, in a unique position to have read a book by Adam Cayton-Holland in where he discusses his life and impact of his sister, Lydia, who committed suicide in 2012. And I knew Lydia. We worked together a dog rescue (mentioned in the book is also Dozer, a dog Lydia rehabilitated for the rescue, and was my most favorite dog ever from my time at the shelter – a double whammy, perhaps, since Dozer passed a couple years ago). Were we best friends? No. Did she impact me? Of course. And I knew, before even reading this book, that I was far from the only one she crossed paths with and made a difference in. But with that being said, I do not know Adam (in fact it was only a couple years ago, while watching his show I thought “wait.that last name can’t be THAT common”) and my thoughts on the writing and story are completely my own. However, how do I write an unbiased review when Lydia is such an important part in it? Perhaps I can’t. For how hard it was for me to read this book, I can only imagine it was that much harder for Adam to write it. It was a beautiful and honest book. Adam is full of love and humor, throughout. He shows the struggle of the aftermath and he doesn’t hide his feeling. If I had one complaint, I think it could have used a little extra editing. Cayton proves, with this book, that not only is he a great comedian and wonderful actor but a talented writer.

  17. 4 out of 5

    Kait McNamee

    I was shelving books at the library and came across this one. I know of Adam peripherally, as we have friends and acquaintances in common (in fact, some were mentioned in the book), but I've never met him. I figured I'd give it a read and was pleasantly surprised. The subject matter is dark, but the book distances itself from the farcical, sad-white-guy humor that seems to be popular in non-fiction right now. The plot is an honest look about how suicide affects individuals and their families, wi I was shelving books at the library and came across this one. I know of Adam peripherally, as we have friends and acquaintances in common (in fact, some were mentioned in the book), but I've never met him. I figured I'd give it a read and was pleasantly surprised. The subject matter is dark, but the book distances itself from the farcical, sad-white-guy humor that seems to be popular in non-fiction right now. The plot is an honest look about how suicide affects individuals and their families, with a bunch of love for Denver tossed in. I live in the City Park neighborhood and regularly visit the bench that Adam's family bought for his sister—it's a Pokestop in the Pokemon Go! game—but I didn't know the history around it until now. I will certainly think of Lydia when I pass by now. It was interesting to see Adam's take on Denver, the comedy scene here, and how he appreciates his roots. I gave this 4 of 5 stars as I didn't get quite the well-rounded ending that I wanted, but I mean, hey that's also kinda the point.

  18. 5 out of 5

    Michelle

    I'd never heard of Adam Cayton-Holland as a comic but I'm partial to an audiobook memoir narrated by the author, especially when that author is an experienced performer/storyteller. And Adam Cayton-Holland does not disappoint. This story is mostly about his sister's battle with mental illness, but it happens alongside his rising career, which makes for a very poignant story, that push-pull of life, how you can be happy one minute, devastated the next. You'll love the family in this, which will m I'd never heard of Adam Cayton-Holland as a comic but I'm partial to an audiobook memoir narrated by the author, especially when that author is an experienced performer/storyteller. And Adam Cayton-Holland does not disappoint. This story is mostly about his sister's battle with mental illness, but it happens alongside his rising career, which makes for a very poignant story, that push-pull of life, how you can be happy one minute, devastated the next. You'll love the family in this, which will make the read/listen even more difficult, but it's well worth the tears. Especially recommend hearing him speak his own words.

  19. 5 out of 5

    Kate

    I saw Adam open for Cameron Esposito in Denver last fall. I'm not generally a big comedy person - especially white dude comedy, not sorry - but I loved his set. I Googled around the next day and realized that he's kind of a Big Deal locally, and put his book on hold at the library. (That was early November, and I didn't come up on the list until late February.) This is a gorgeous, heartbreaking, beautifully written book. And as Adam writes lovingly about his family, he also writes from the heart I saw Adam open for Cameron Esposito in Denver last fall. I'm not generally a big comedy person - especially white dude comedy, not sorry - but I loved his set. I Googled around the next day and realized that he's kind of a Big Deal locally, and put his book on hold at the library. (That was early November, and I didn't come up on the list until late February.) This is a gorgeous, heartbreaking, beautifully written book. And as Adam writes lovingly about his family, he also writes from the heart about this city we both live in and love. I don't know how meaningful the Denver parts of this book are to people who don't live here, but I adored them.

  20. 5 out of 5

    Aldrin Cornejo

    I've been following Adam's career since I first saw him at Meltdown around 2010-2011. To know that the events described in this book happened during this time really paint an overall picture of how he's come up in the comedy community in the face of so much pain. This book is a wonderful memorial and it helped me look back on how I dealt with my own grief after losing my mom several years ago. If you're a fan of Adam, or if you've ever lost anyone, I really recommend reading this.

  21. 5 out of 5

    Ryn

    A quick read with much potential but something missing. The attempts to be funny didn't really work for me and it is too bad Lee was not around to tell Adam he was using the phrase "dick jokes" too often. It had a wonderful description of EMDR that reference pretty regularly to explain traumatic memory to my clients. The chapter about hawks almost made me cry. Overall, a really good exploration of coping with the suicide of a loved one.

  22. 4 out of 5

    Ashley Shamoon

    The best description I have for this book is “raw.” Adam Cayton-Holland lays his pain bare. What I liked best about him, was he did not tell his reader how they were supposed to feel. He just put it out there, and let you decide what to take away from it. The book is very sad. (As you would probably expect.) So trigger warnings.

  23. 5 out of 5

    Stephanie Bain

    *i was sent this book for free in exchange for an honest review* It was great. The moment i started reading his writing hooked me. Its easy and heartbreaking and beautiful. But just the way he put words to paper, i loved his writing. I loved his story. It was amazing.

  24. 4 out of 5

    Sharon Chase

    A mixed bag. The family stuff rings true. The comic aspect falls flat because all the author does is tell you how funny he is...show don't tell is a solid rule of writing, fiction or non-fiction. And I probably should not have read this book about a sister's death when I am in between the anniversary of my sister's birth and the anniversary of her death.

  25. 4 out of 5

    Paul Pessolano

    “Tragedy + Time” by Adam Cayton-Holland, published by Touchstone Books. Category – Memoir/Death Publication Date – August 21, 2018. Although this book is marketed as a Tragic-Comic Memoir I found very little comic but plenty of tragedy and death. Adam Cayton-Powell lived with his family in Denver, Colorado and he was very attached to his sisters, especially the youngest, Lydia. Lydia was a very vibrant young lady who had a dark side that in many cases was not noticed by friends or family. When her “Tragedy + Time” by Adam Cayton-Holland, published by Touchstone Books. Category – Memoir/Death Publication Date – August 21, 2018. Although this book is marketed as a Tragic-Comic Memoir I found very little comic but plenty of tragedy and death. Adam Cayton-Powell lived with his family in Denver, Colorado and he was very attached to his sisters, especially the youngest, Lydia. Lydia was a very vibrant young lady who had a dark side that in many cases was not noticed by friends or family. When her Dark Side was noticed it was quickly forgotten as she often came out of it very quickly. Adam was on his way to becoming a well known comic and did a lot of traveling. He started a comic company in Denver and Lydia became an integral part of the company. Lydia, after years of struggling finally gave in to her inner demons and committed suicide. She was found by Adam and he has carried this moment with him for his entire life. The story not only tells of what Lydia went through but more importantly what the family went through. The story relates to what happens to those that are left behind and the struggles that they must face. As in Adam’s case it was a life long struggle before he could come to terms with his sister’s suicide and even today it still haunts him. A very good read especially for those who are going through similar problems in their lives.

  26. 5 out of 5

    Megan C.

    So grateful to the publisher for providing me with a copy of T+T. I. Loved. This. Book. Full review can be found on my IG account (@whatmeganreads) but this book was so gracefully done. The author plumbed the depths of his emotions both while his sister battled with mental illness, and also his grief after she took her own life. I cannot recommend this book highly enough.

  27. 4 out of 5

    Shannon Knight

    I did the ugly cry. This book is beautiful and funny and heartbreaking and hit me right where I knew it would: in the deepest well of my grief over losing my own sister. But it also made me laugh about a hundred times, and sometimes laugh-cry, always an impressive feat. Adam is one of my favorite comedians and is now also one of my favorite writers. I’m so glad he wrote the one comedian memoir that doesn’t mostly suck.

  28. 4 out of 5

    Stephanie

    Thanks to Touchstone for a free review copy! In this story of a brother writing about his little sister, I was reminded often of Truth & Beauty, Ann Patchett's memoir of remembering and grieving for her dear friend. He's trying to capture all that he loved and admired in Lydia, the shared moments of intimacy and joy, while also processing her growing depression and and their family's grief and healing after her suicide. I was unexpectedly moved by this book - it's a quick read that I would cal Thanks to Touchstone for a free review copy! In this story of a brother writing about his little sister, I was reminded often of Truth & Beauty, Ann Patchett's memoir of remembering and grieving for her dear friend. He's trying to capture all that he loved and admired in Lydia, the shared moments of intimacy and joy, while also processing her growing depression and and their family's grief and healing after her suicide. I was unexpectedly moved by this book - it's a quick read that I would call "breezy" if it weren't dealing with such heartfelt subject matter. Cayton-Holland writes with a comic's eye, with a sense for timing and brevity. He's got a knack for sorting through the decades of memories he shared with Lydia and pulling forward just a few to capture her spirit and struggles. So beautiful and aching, so memorable. There are so many images here that stand out: their mother listening to Lydia's funeral in an upstairs room, how Lydia always kept a grocery store sheet cake in her fridge, the moments of Adam's success in comedy coinciding with times of deep heartbreak. A gracious, honest tribute.

  29. 4 out of 5

    Kali

    I have found one of my new favorite books, this is one of the only books that have made me cry and laugh all in the same binding. I have struggled with depression all of my life, and I knew that reading this book I would find some similarities between Lydia’s actions and behaviors and my own. I’m not going to be cheesy and admit that this book may have saved my life but honestly - it may have altered my thoughts about suicide. I see the hurt Adam and his family experience but it should never be I have found one of my new favorite books, this is one of the only books that have made me cry and laugh all in the same binding. I have struggled with depression all of my life, and I knew that reading this book I would find some similarities between Lydia’s actions and behaviors and my own. I’m not going to be cheesy and admit that this book may have saved my life but honestly - it may have altered my thoughts about suicide. I see the hurt Adam and his family experience but it should never be used as a lesson to “learn from”. This was Adams’ families hardship alone, although I can resonate, I cannot act like I know what it really feels like. This book helped me more than any self-help titles I’ve picked up in the last year. Thank you.

  30. 4 out of 5

    Marika

    When one member of a family suffers from an illness, the entire family suffers. The author writes about Lydia, his younger sister who he was incredibly close with and who eventually took her own life. Adam questions himself to see if perhaps he missed the tell-tale signs of Lydia's descent but Lydia, like many who are determined to take their lives, hid it very well. What's difficult for Adam to reconcile is as his star was rising in the comedy world, Lydia's was dimming. This is an honest, hear When one member of a family suffers from an illness, the entire family suffers. The author writes about Lydia, his younger sister who he was incredibly close with and who eventually took her own life. Adam questions himself to see if perhaps he missed the tell-tale signs of Lydia's descent but Lydia, like many who are determined to take their lives, hid it very well. What's difficult for Adam to reconcile is as his star was rising in the comedy world, Lydia's was dimming. This is an honest, heart breaking memoir. I read an advance copy and was not compensated.

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